No one is thinking about you

I am currently listening to Elizabeth Gilbert’s audiobook Big Magic. I love this book as much as I love her Eat Pray Love so I will probably get the print from B&N or Amazon.

My favorite part of Big Magic is where she mentions a person she was conversing with who gave pretty sage wisdom. We spend most of our 20’s and 30’s trying to be perfect because of how we want to be seen by others. We care a lot about what others think of us. Then we get into our 40’s and 50’s and begin to care less of what others think, so we begin to be more authentic. But it’s not until our 60’s and 70’s do we realize one essential truth: no one is thinking about us. Yes, we may have moments where we are of someone’s attention for whatever reasons, but moments later, people are back to thinking about the thing they think of the most: themselves.

I don’t know why I find this so profound since I *ahem* tend to think of myself more than I do of most. I’m sure this blog of mine concurs. But as a person who’s had issues with social anxiety in the past and is worrisome over what others at work think of me, it is comforting to have this reminder that most people are dealing with themselves and their activities and/or issues.

Another part of the book I enjoyed is where she talks of not quitting her day job while she worked on her writing and books. She said she never wanted to place the pressure of making a living on her creativity. That she didn’t even do so until after her fourth published book Eat Pray Love and that if the book didn’t go as well as it did, she would still have a day job to this day.

I find this very sensible and assuring because I feel maybe it’s something I should do. Not worry about trying to make a living off my creativity, but enjoying it for what it is and placing the freedom on it that it may need to thrive.

I didn’t mean to make this into the book review it kind of is. Elizabeth Gilbert has put forth a lot of great information on living a creative life. I highly recommend this book.

Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert